I recently spent an afternoon visiting with my nephew and his wife. I don’t see them often because I worry it will cause them problems with my brother who has such obvious disdain for me. And I have to be honest — it seems like anything I tell my nephew that makes it’s way to […]
In the same conversation as the parody of Dorothy I mentioned that it would never have worked having my mother move in so I could care for her. I jokingly said if we were both under the same roof, one of us would have had to die. I told him my mother had come to […]
A friend and I were talking about people we knew who were caring for aging parents, who had pretty much given up their lives in that endeavor. I shared with him how my mother had spent my entire life trying to indoctrinate me as to how things would be when she got older by telling […]
I’ve had occasion recently to reexamine my thoughts about rock bottoms, because I suspect I’m heading toward one myself. Not just for addicts It seems a lot of people think rock bottom is a concept that only comes into play for alcoholics and addicts when they hit their proverbial rock bottom and their situation is […]
I have spent the last year writing a book about what it was like being an average little girl growing up with a mother who was the walking definition of Narcissistic Personality Disorder. Repeatedly I would get curious about the competition I would be up against and research for similar books. I couldn’t find any. […]
Isn’t that an oxymoron? One definition of love is “unselfish loyal and benevolent concern for the good of another” so how can that be twisted into doing terrible things because your beloved wants it. The concept completely eludes me despite the fact I have suffered on the wrong end of that situation with two members […]
If I had to come up with one word that sums up the difference between a child designated as the scapegoat versus the child designated as the golden child it could only be entitlement. My brother was brought up with the belief he was entitled to everything; not just everything, the best of everything. While […]
The acorn doesn’t fall far from the tree… This one might only be appreciated by someone else who had the misfortune of being the “scapegoat” in a family controlled by a narcissistic parent. This is about my sibling who was the “golden child”. I have to admit I’m not a big fan of Facebook since […]
